This largely continues the discussion from this page of more extreme hair styles.
So go there first if you haven't already.
TAKING YOUR HAIR INTO THE REALM OF S/M
Summary
- Growing your bangs out like this - you know it's going to be painful. Everyone else does too.
- Knowing this and still doing it, does that make you a 'masochist'?
- I discuss what ceding control to me would be like. If you do that are you then a 'victim' and me the 'sadist'?
- Masochist, sadist, victim - which point of view is more fun or more erotic for you to play with?
- I imaging my boy exploring the fun, cost and erotic energy surrounding all these attitudes.
- When he sees me as the sadist openly enjoying his torment, what does that do for his sense of himself / self as victim / self as erotic object?
- I discuss dealing with other people's reactions -- and what you might say when asked why you're doing this?
- Finally I list a few sadistic scenarios in which a boy's long, floppy hair can be used to 'torment' him.
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Like in the Greek myth of Sisyfus, who was cursed by the gods by being forced to roll a big rock up a hill every day, just to see it roll back down again every night.
Here we have the extreme scene/alternative/emo/hair-in-your-face version of Sisyfus where no matter how many times or how forcefully that hair is flung out of the face, it just falls down again, over and over, endlessly.
And like the Greek gods before them, the hair gods have no mercy.
And then there's the built-in visual handicap from all that hair hanging in your face.
Taking it into S/M, ideally we'll go with the most extreme hair possible -- the hottest, sexiest, most beautiful and most erotic looking.
The extreme overflowing abundance of it will hinder spontaneous activity and burden you with multiple demands that must be dealt with.
It causes you to miss seeing important things, or it requires you to really work to see whatever you do see.
You have to work for this look and overcome the burden and hassle of it.
It's you in public being extreme. Everyone will notice.
Cute sexy floppy haired boy taking it all way too far so that now he has to suffer to maintain such an outrageous style!
Because it demands suffering from you, people may think that since you've chosen to keep your hair that long despite being fully aware of the efforts required, then you must have chosen to suffer.
They'll see you as a masochist. Someone willing to suffer needlessly for the flivolity of style and fashion that you've chosen.
If you'd cut off that extreme hair you'd eliminate the suffering with it.
But you've decided to keep that hair. So you've decided to willingly suffer with it and from it.
Yes, they see you as a masochist -- someone who takes pleasure in needless suffering.
If you do choose to do this, then yes, I too would say you are a masochist.
A DEEPER LEVEL OF S/M -- AGREE TO CEDE CONTROL OVER YOUR HAIR TO ME
What if, for some reason you were to agree to give up total control of your appearance -- of your hair, your clothing and shoes -- ceding full control of these to me?
And furthermore you commit to this arrangement for a time period of at least a couple of years, so it's more than just a trivial commitment.
Doing this, you will be agreeing to obey my dictates about this. You'll have no choice about how you wear your hair or about the outfits you wear.
Those choices will be mine to make and yours to obey. So then if I make you do things that cause you to suffer -- then you're now a victim. You're a victim and I'm the sadist.
Could that be more fun to play with? I think so!
HOW LONG OF A COMMITMENT?
Human hair growth rate is .36mm/day * 365days = 131mm/year = 5.15"/year.
So if you're starting with crew-cut hair, it may take nearly 2 years for it to get to the length I'm wanting (where hanging freely, it can tickle the bottom of your chin).
So if that's where we start, the time commitment needs to be longer than that -- at least 2 1/2 years -- maybe more.
The longer your bangs are now, the less time it will take to grow them to the required length and thus a shorter commitment could be possible.
I would like to be able to see your hair at something approaching that target length for at least half a year.
Before it gets to that length, we can still play, substituting floppy styled wigs (which I will provide) as needed.
MASOCHIST or VICTIM?
So say you've ceded control to me. And now I require you to grow your hair in an extreme style to extreme lengths that will increasingly hassle and annoy you the longer it gets.
It will take a lot of your time, attention and effort to deal with it. It will get annoying. It will often be a hassle. It will take more and more of your energy.
Thus you will suffer for it and we both know that. What you'll be suffering for, mind you, will look extremely good on you -- intensely sexy, and most uncommonly hot!
We both know this too. Thus you may be more willing to suffer for it, knowing that you can also enjoy the way it will make you look.
I too will enjoy the way you'll look -- and I'll also enjoy seeing you cope with the hassle, the annoyance and energy suck of it.
I will take sadistic pleasure in seeing you suffer for looking so goddamn good! It will be a real turn-on for me.
I will really be the sadist here -- and you'll be my hot, sexy, beautiful victim who must suffer for such beauty.
As the victim, you can 'blame' me for any suffering you might experience since I'm the one demanding it of you while you're forced to accommodate me.
With me as the sadist, you're no longer the masochist -- you're my victim and I make you suffer.
So I'm your sadist (both causing you pain and taking pleasure in seeing you suffer) and you are my victim (made to suffer for such extreme beauty and style).
Does victim play sexier for you than masochist?
How does that feel to you?
Do you resent this?
Do you also want to make me suffer?
Or do you enjoy the suffering?
How does it feel to see me getting off on your suffering?
Actual 'torture' like this is not what I'm talking about, although it can be hot too.
Ok, but this can't be all. What else can I do to be 'sadistic' here -- i.e., what can I do to add to the work, annoyance or hassle of going through each day with all that sexy long hair?
To start making it more challenging (but also far more visually appealing) -- how about my not allowing you to wear hats, caps, headbands, nets, or to use gels, sprays, conditioners or anything else designed to keep hair in place.
When your hair gets too long to stay out of your face, locking it down with a hat or hair goo is pretty appealing as it temporarily keeps your hair out of your way.
But without this ability to call time out on your hair, it'll be flopping around your face all the time – when you're out in public being seen by others, when you're around me, and when alone – demanding the same energy from you in all these situations as it keeps non-stop falling in your face and getting annoyingly in your way.
So when the wind is blowing, your hair is going to blow and flop and slap around in your face -- unless you're able to free up a hand and control it with your fingers.
That’s pretty hot – suffering for beauty, suffering for style, and not being able to call a time out. Suffering non-stop.
It's a pretty well-travelled route in S/M-land -- I just don’t know if it’s been done ‘formally’ with the whole in-your-face hair style.
No matter -- we'll certainly be going for it here.
WHAT IF YOU WON'T CEDE CONTROL TO ME?
What if you have decided against ceding control of your appearance to me?
If you're in control instead of me, and you still opt to go for this extreme floppy, in-your-face style, then that means you prefer playing the masochist instead of the victim.
No matter. Then let me follow along as you masochistically suffer from the pain of your style and beauty choices.
I can also enjoy your masochism -- perhaps even offer you some suggestions for it.
Whichever way makes the suffering more appealing to you -- I really want to see you going for the extreme floppy, in-your-face look and all the suffering that comes with it.
I want to see it up close, first hand.
S OR M - IT MIGHT JUST FEEL THE SAME
It’s way hot for me to know that those sexy looking locks are costing you – that keeping bangs like that on your head takes a lot of effort.
Starting out, your hair can be like a sexy toy for you that happens also to be attached to your head.
You find all sorts of ways to amuse yourself with it.
And I, of course, will encourage you to flaunt and show off with it at any opportunity -- which you enjoy doing.
Then as it grows longer, it gradually, yet more and more, starts to act like a device of torture or torment that you can't escape (since it's attached to your head).
It's constantly getting in your way, obscuring your vision, bothering, flopping around your face and annoying you.
That's a real turn on for me. Whether you suffer as victim or as masochist, I will want to see you doing more and more of it.
I will devise ways to get you into situations where your long hair becomes an extra challenge to deal with.
(I've imagined a number of such situations later on this page)
Your suffering is a turn-on. And your looks are also a turn-on.
It's a double turn-on to see you in situation where your hot looks make you put up with even more suffering.
Yes, even when you're your own masochist, I can still be a sadist.
HOW MIGHT MY BOYS FEEL ABOUT THIS?
I'm looking for that ultimate style and length which keeps it moving around the most. It'll be an intensely sexy, sexy, beautiful look.
At the same time, I'm also aiming for that sexiest of looks to be the most annoying in-your-face, in-your-way, vision-reducing, suck-it-into-your-mouth look that my boys have to wear.
I want to see them living with it, having a ton of fun with it (at least at first or at least sometimes), and if not, then just dealing with it.
I will be very curious to see how each boy deals with it.
Hopefully it'll be mostly playful fun for him as he tunes into what's beautiful and sexy about it, and finds lots of imaginative and creative ways to express that.
Or perhaps he'll instead tune into the suffering, find it at first somewhat annoying, then as it gets longer, more annoying, then really annoying -- maybe even tormenting.
He'll probably alternate and at times focus on the fun aspects of sporting such an unusually sexy look and at other times he'll wallow in the suffering required to make it look as hot as it does.
Focusing on the suffering, he'll be playing the role of the victim (an S/M 'fashion victim') to my sadist -- since I'm the one that forced this on him.
I'll be curious what he thinks of being a victim? Does he get into the way it can be erotic and hot? Or does he just resign himself to it? Both at different times?
No matter how he feels about it, I want to observe him feeling it, living it and dealing with it as it happens.
So, what might you, my floppy haired boy victim (or masochist), think about all this?
How much do you get off from showing off and flaunting what you've got?
Do you have fun playing with your hair?
And about that suffering, are you really suffering?
Is that just suffering or is there more?
Do you ever get an erotic thrill from playing victim to another's sadistic demands?
Poor beautiful floppy haired boy in a world that enjoys making him suffer for having such long, excessive sexy hair.
Can you ever turn your suffering into something erotic and sexy?
Do you enjoy playing victim? Or do you enjoy hurting yourself?
How far can you go with either?
BEING THE BEST FLOPPY HAIRED BOY VICTIM (OR MASOCHIST) YOU CAN BE
You're being forced to do all this by a sadist (myself) who is using you as his most beautiful, most extreme floppy haired boy victim.
Or you're doing this to yourself - you most beautiful of floppy haired boys.
Either way, I will do my utmost to assist, encourage and demand that you take your hair and overall appearance into the realm of the hottest and sexiest I can imagine for you and that you can attain.
Perhaps my taste in boys (which you know by know) and my opinion on how they look their best -- maybe it's very similar to your own.
If so, then it's obvious that my plans will be ones you will want to go along with.
But if not, I still bet that I can at least instill an appreciation for my tastes such that you will at least understand my vision of what's attractive on a guy and why it would be attractive on you.
As the sadist, I will keep you informed about various ways you can play the floppy haired boy role -- things you do or could do that create the biggest charges for me.
Essentially ways I see you being the hottest boy you can be.
So, my boy, know that I will be relentlessly informing you of all the ways I can dream up for you to be the most erotically attractive floppy haired boy you can be.
You can guarantee that I'll be paying you plenty of attention.
HOW OTHERS WILL SEE YOU
But I'm not the only person you'll have to be dealing with.
As an extreme shaggy, long-haired boy, you will be exploring an edge experience in other interpersonal encounters -- mostly because the whole extreme hair-in-your-face thing is so unusual.
Some people don't do well with unusual people and you may have some issues with that.
But hopefully you'll come to see that the most interesting people are extreme people -- people who know what they want and go for it -- rather than people who just try to fit in.
You'll get lots of attention.
Everyone will notice how you constantly have to work all that hair.
And they'll certainly notice that it's styled in a way that doesn't make it any easier for you.
You'll see that to anyone who likes long locks on a guy, your bangs are beyond hot.
Beautiful, long locks of hair growing in the most inconvenient, but interesting style.
Perhaps many will find it even hotter because of that -- I would.
You'll definitely get noticed by guys who like the way your hair looks.
And by guys turned on by seeing how much you have to work (or suffer) to look so hot (more sadists, no doubt).
WHAT TO SAY WHEN THEY ASK WHY -- AND WHAT ROLE TO PLAY?
You know that your hair has to be long enough to be seriously getting in your way, yet not so long that you stop flipping and tossing in back out.
Hair that moves the most. That's the goal. But will others understand?
People will see you dealing with your hair and ask why you don't cut it or at least stuff it all under a cap to keep it out of your face.
If you're up for it you'll have a more interesting story (and you'll possibly be seen as even more interesting than you already are) if you say that you're at the complete mercy of a sadist.
You've given full control to him over your entire appearance, which includes your hair and clothes.
That will also explain why you're always wearing such screaming tight pants.
Or you could say you're growing your hair like that because you like how it looks and that you also masochistically enjoy the suffering it entails.
Personally, I think the sadist line will get a better reaction, but I guess you won't really know unless you try them both.
If they understand S/M play, they'll get it.
If not, then play up the victim role with them -- if that's a hot one for you.
Victim is easier to play if you have a sadist involved, although I suppose you can play victim to your masochistic self.
If not feeling so victim-like, then make like all this hair hanging in your face is actually more fun than it is hassle (great if it is!).
Then show them some some of your hair tossing and flipping. Show off, be sassy and arrogant with it.
It's way hot and you're making make it hotter!
Or perhaps a bit of each: you're a victim, but it's also really fun and hot.
There are more roles too -- not just victim.
How about a floppy hair-in-his-face athlete -- what would that be like?
Or a floppy hair dancer (lots of whips and flips for sure).
Or a floppy hair model, show off -- or ?
MORE S/M VICTIM PLAY WITH FLOPPY IN-YOUR-FACE HAIR
Following lists some sadistic scenes in which we purposely mess with our extreme hairstyle boy's uber-sexy long hair as a way to amp up the hassle, annoyance and suffering it causes him.
S/M for my floppy haired boy(s) will consist of many things, but a constant theme will be the torment coming from all the ways I find to cause his hair to fall down into his face, devising ways to make it happen even more frequently and when most inconvenient.
Bondage play can be set up so that my boy is restrained in positions that won't let him get his hair out of his face and eyes.
With bound hands, He will have to struggle to look past the curtain of hair covering his eyes to see the 'dangers' that lurk.
In wrestling / fighting matches with another boy (another floppy hair-in-his-face boy preferably, but any hot boy will do), the other boy will attempt to keep my boy's hair flopping around in his face all the time, making it far more difficult to see what's coming at him and therefore to defend himself from it.
Possibly create an floppy hair torture machine that taunts him with reduced visibility (knocking his hair in his eyes) when visibility is critical to not getting hurt.
Fan in room, blowing on him the wrong way or oscillating and blowing many ways.
Get sticky stuff on his hands so he can't sweep back his hair with his hands.
Or handcuff him so that he can reach to his chin but no higher.
Make him do chores that way – indoors and out, in wind and still.
Make him ride in convertible that way.
Pet–cuff his hands, feed him liquids on the floor in a pet bowl and make him drink from it.
His bangs will fall in the water bowl and get all wet – if liquid is sticky even better.
Make him kiss, & suck cock that way, with his hair falling down into the action to get sucked in.
Make him do total sex that way – hair always getting in the way – of the crotch he sucks, of the face he kisses, of the ass he licks.
Group sex where he can’t hold his hair in place.
The group forces him into positions and into activities that cause his hair to dangle down directly into the action.
If his hair is parted and sweeps horizontally across his forehead to one side, make him lie down on his side and face out such that his bangs sweep across to the eye that is now highest.
With his face now sideways instead of upright, facing to that side causes his bangs to fall down directly into his face, burying his eyes. He'll be unable to flick them of his eyes or even away from his mouth.
He's tasked with pouring liquids back into their bottles, but the bottles are moving.
There's a time limit to it, and with his hair constantly getting in his eyes, can he get the right liquid into the right container?
Misjudge the position of the container and you spill.
Of course, punishment will be in proportion to the liquids misplaced or spilled.
He has to walk barefoot through sharp gravel and rocks on a windy day while carrying a large box.
Hands occupied with the box, so his hair is flopping all over face and burying his eyes most of the time.
He needs to see where the gravel and rocks are sharpest to avoid them.
But let's also add a time constraint.
Perhaps there are also slippery spots that need to be seen to be avoided.
He's required to watch a series of numbers on a monitor and copy them down.
They’re only on screen for so long, and any that are missed are not repeated.
Punishment will be in proportion to the numbers incorrect or missed.
A screen is up high and various small pieces of paper are on a low writing surface below.
He must copy the information on the screen to the appropriate piece of paper below according to it's category.
Perhaps the papers are also on a revolving lazy susan, so he has to look to find the correct one each time.
Again, punishment will in proportion to the mistakes he makes.
Devise a set of buttons above his head and near the floor which move about and which must be pressed simultaneously using two hands to display a code on one of several monitors located above and below him.
This code must then be typed into a keyboard that change position each time from high to low and which has programmable keys which allows the key configuration to be changed from the standard QWERTY to any other instantly, and of course, it changes regularly.
He has to look up then down to, grab the two buttons then find the monitor displaying the code, locate the keyboard, use one hand to pull it to himself which finding the keys he needs to press and with the other hand, press those keys.
So the more he looks up, down and around, the more his hair flops around, the more it wants to settle directly in his face.
He has to try tossing it aside as best he can without the use of his hands.
Until he can't toss it aside -- effectively can't see out - and now has to take a hand away from the fast-moving button and key presses and move it to his face to push his hair aside.
Doing that wastes precious time and causes him to miss a code or two.
The more he has to use a hand to push his hair aside, the more codes he misses and the greater the punishment that awaits.
He's seated in the downwind of a strong oscillating fan and his hands are restrained in such a way that they are not able to reach up to his head.
Seeing out requres him to rely totally on flips and ever-more-violent head jerks.
Despite all the intense flipping, tossing and jerking, his hair still mostly flops around, burying his face and eyes.
Make him brush my whole body with his bangs.
At the beach when I get sand on me, require him to brush it all away using only his bangs.
Restrain his arms so that his hands can't quite reach his face.
Have him do chores at home, run athletic courses outside, go hiking -- lots of things where his hair will fall down over his eyes -- yet his hands won't be available to push it out of the way.
After a while all the jerking and tossing and flipping in the world just won't get it out of his eyes.
What will he do?
Team Floppy Kickball: Players with floppy hair in their eyes - all with hands restrained as above jerk, toss and flip to get their hair out of their faces.
Teammates help each other however they can to keep each other's hair from completely obscuring his vision, while at the same time attacking the opponent team using any trick they can think of to cause those boys' hair to get knocked forward and slap around in their eyes -- ideally to completely obliterate all vision for a bit.
Have some more floppy in-your-face hair tortures? Send them my way!