Note: At the top of each page is a summary for those who want it quick.
So if you're the impatient sort, you can just read that and skip the details. But if you're the inquiring sort, each detailed section has plenty more.
What I'm Up to Here
Summary
- I want to find young guys who will let me play with (and ideally, dictate) their appearance -- their hair, clothes and shoes.
- First fetish, hair that moves: it falls, cascades, hangs, flops about, swings, sways, gets flipped, tossed, pushed & petted.
- I want my guys to wear their hair long and floppy so that it's constantly moving around, mostly by falling in their face and eyes and then getting pushed, flipped or tossed back out.
- On purpose, my boy's hair will be styled to constantly (and ideally, as frequently as possible) fall down and dangle or flop about in his face and really be in the way, thus provoking him to respond with a flip, toss or push, to get it back out of the way -- for the moment.
- I want to explore the sado-masochism (S/M) in the sexiness and beauty of hair styled like this and the suffering required to make it happen (the constant effort to deal with it, the annoyance and hassle, and at times the handicap it creates).
Additional S/M could deal with people's reactions to your hair style and its impacts on your self-image.
- Second fetish, my boy can only wear outfits and gear that are super skin-tight and revealing.
- I'll provide outfits of various kinds, but all of them will fit very tight.
- The S/M here will deal with the degree of tight and the degree of reveal in his gear, people's reaction and the boy's reaction to that.
- Third fetish, my boy's shoes/boots will either be form-fitting to his foot, ankle and calf (low cut shoes or boots up to knee-high).
Alternately, if we want to include shoes in some S/M play, then we turn to the 'Bad Shoe'. If not into this, then you can skip all these 'Bad Shoe' pages
where I discuss transforming ordinary loafers into 'Bad Shoes' for me akin to the way Stilettos play that role for women.
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Details
I'm looking for young guys willing to let me play with their appearance.
I’m an older white gay man who is looking for young guys willing to give me control of the way they look, so I can use them to explore some of my fetishes around appearance.
This would be a boy (or two) who will ideally cede complete control to me over his appearance – what clothes and shoes he can wear and the length and style of his hair.
By taking control I'll be aiming to make him look as hot and sexy as possible while taking the fetishes as far on him as possible.
The appearance that I'll demand of him will be defined by clothing and gear that fits skintight, compressed and body-conforming at all times.
He'll have outfits of various kinds, but every one of them will fit tight.
His hair, I'll make him grow shaggy with long bangs that fall down into his eyes and hang and flop around in his face, getting in the way.
To get it out of the way, he'll have to jerk, flip or push that hair up or to the side again.
So the hair I want to see on him, is in constant motion, repeatedly falling, hanging, flopping around and getting flipped, tossed or pushed, again and again.
His shoes will either be tight form-fitting boots, high-tops or athletic shoes that continue the tight gear look.
Or we will experiment with turning ordinary loafers into S/M worthy 'Bad Shoes' for men, akin to Stilettos for women.
The 'Bad Shoe' play will include all that's fetish-worthy in loafers and more (you might be surprised).
If not into this kind of S/M play, then skip all these pages.
Boys who know they can easily pull off these looks are the natural fit here.
And if they like showing off how good they look while doing it, they're even better.
And if they can get into taking all this even further into the realm of S/M where achieving a hot as possible look will require some suffering -- those are the ones I want the most.
This is probably not very clear yet, but continue through the site and it'll become much clearer.
By the time you're through it, you'll have a very good idea of what this is all about. And if not, contact me.
All of This -- or Just Part of It
Although I'd ideally like to find boys willing to explore all these fetishes, I'm also open to any who are interested in playing with just one or two of them but not all -- or perhaps only doing it just part-time, instead of committing to full-time.
So as you go through this site, keep that in mind. And if any one part of this appeals or intrigues but not all of it I'd still like you to get in touch with me.
Three Main Areas
Ceding control to me is the main idea. These boys would be giving up contol in 3 main areas ...
1) All his clothes must be tight.
These fit, lean, trim, good looking guys will always have to wear tight, tight outfits, whether it's their street clothes, sports gear, fetish gear -- whatever.
Everything they wear will be cut tight to emphasize and show off their beautifully defined torsos, legs, arms, crotches and asses.
From ultra-skinny skinny jeans and compression shirts to swim skins, running tights, cycle shorts and latex fetish gear – I need boy(s) who will wear everything tight, tight and tighter.
This fetish for tight gear is a pretty common turn-on, as shown by the large number of blogs dedicated to it, including one I created: Gripping Tight Gear.
2) Hair that's shaggy, floppy and in-his-face.
Beautiful shaggy, floppy hair that moves a lot and regularly falls and hangs down over eyes and face, getting in the way and demanding attention.
I'm especially thrilled to see a guy who has grown his bangs extra-long, right in front, of course. The longer those bangs get, the more frequently he has to contend with them falling over one or both eyes or hanging down, dangling and swinging around right in his face.
The thrills continue as his head flicks abruptly to one side to toss or flip it back. Or he simply brings a hand to his face to shoves it all to one side. Either way, he's given it the attention demanded and moved it back out of his way, thus making a full cycle of it.
But cycles repeat, and so does this one: again – falling and flipping, falling, hanging, swinging and getting tossed or shoved back up – over and over, again and again.
Hair that cascades, falls, hangs, swings, sways and then gets flipped, whipped or tossed back – hair moving like this – this is my thrill.
Static, glued-in-place hair done up like a hedge or sculpted into topiary does absolutely nothing for me. I've no attraction either to buzz cuts or to fresh-mowed lawns. Hair styles suggestive of suburban landscaping just aren't for me.
So to style my boy's hair so that it moves around and gets moved about the most, it will have to be longest and heaviest right in front, where it will most frequently fall down and hang in his face and spur him to move it back out.
Hair that's excessively long in front will inevitably fall, either slowly, a strand at a time, or all at once.
Then hanging down over his eyes, in his face and in his way, he'll eventually be provoked to do something about it.
He will then flip it or toss it or shove it out of the way, where it will stay -- for a while -- until it falls again.
The longer the bangs, the more frequently they will fall.
We will experiment and play to see just how long they can get and how much frequency he can tolerate.
But if he grows his bangs well past a certain point, he'll be unable to keep it out of his eyes and face at all, not even briefly.
At this point and beyond, his hair will hang down in his face all the time. Perhaps he'll push it to one side so that most of the time it covers just one eye and only occasionally both.
Fetishes for hair are less common than for tight gear (at least among gay men it seems), but still not too rare.
However, shaggy hair that flops around – and long bangs in particular – that’s somewhat rare.
3) Footwear that's lean and tight or 'Bad Shoes' that are loose and floppy.
Footwear that is cut tall and conforms tightly to the foot ankle and calf – or cut low to expose socks that conforming tightly to the shape of the foot. This is a less common fetish, so I’ll go into more detail.
a) Form-fitting boots and high-tops
Shoes & boots that conform tightly to the foot, ankle and calf are the shoe & boot version of tight gear, of course.
Examples would be boots cut tight and form-fitting in the foot, ankle and calf, or high-top wrestling and boxing boots that also conform to the foot which lace up for a tight fit.
b) Form-fitting low-cut shoes
Still narrow and form-fitting on the foot, often looking like they wrap around the foot at the arch and instep. Soccer, cycle shoes and running cleats are good examples.
c) Low cut and loose - and making them into really bad shoes for s/m play.
The loafers I like best are the classic Venetian style with sides that are cut low and in straight angles next to the sock and foot for contrast.
This is especially dramatic if the sock (fitted to the shape of the foot) is of a contrasting color to the shoe (e.g., black shoes on white socks contrasts well – while black shoes on black socks do not).
With loafers the show gets even hotter the older, more beat up and looser they get.
This is in part due to the greater exposure the socks get as they slip out and pop up (here, form-fitted socks are like the tight gear).
Venetian loafers
I've put together several pages about loafers as fetish footwear and turning loafers into truly S/M worthy 'Bad Shoes'.
If you're interested, go to those pages and explore.
So that’s it. Those are the three fetishes that I want to explore with my boy or boys.
They may appear vanilla, yet they’re still plenty ripe for some interesting s/m -- especially since we will be fashioning our own fetish toys from this gear.
There’s lots more detail about all this on other pages.
What I just said
So what I'm looking for is a boy (or maybe two) willing to cede control to me over his appearance: in other words, what he wears and the style and length of his hair.
All this is in order for me to get my jollies watching and directing the most extreme scenes of beauty and burden at once.
Looking amazing and having to suffer for it to make it happen. Forced to look a certain way -- and forced to suffer for it.
Looking oh so beautiful and paying a price for it.
My boy will be forced to show off his lean, sexy twink physique in skintight outfits.
He will be forced to dress and look sexy all the time, with no other mode of operation (i.e., no 'time off' from it).
His tight outfits will be fitting 'pallettes' for all that sexy-hot hair hanging in his face.
And every so often, he'll be faced with the s/m torments of dealing with gear thats gone bad.
If he goes to school -- his haircut and clothes go with him. Same with work, shopping, whatever.
Hanging around just being bored -- he can only be bored while he wears his long hair, tight outfits and fet footgear.
It's a 24/7 commitment -- unrelentingly on and ever-hot.
One of the hot boys I met doing this
That said, remember that this is the ideal for me.
However, ideal isn't always possible, so I'm also interested in talking with anyone interested in some but not all of this -- or maybe all of this, but not all the time.
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